YOUNG ADULT ISSUES
The following is excerpted from a fall 2009 Pathlight article by PH patient Katie Tobias.
You take a million pills a day. You have a tube coming out of your chest or up your nose, attached to one machine or another. Breathing treatments are a part of your daily routine.
Living with a rare life-threatening illness is difficult in its own right, but fighting for your life at a young age, when your biggest concern should be what to wear for that hot date on Friday, is beyond words. All the medications in the world only fight half the battle — the easy part. So, how do you cope with all this and still feel “normal”?
Read about young adult issues
Check out these resources, which address issues of special importance to young adults, or read on for more suggestions from Katie for redefining life with PH.
- Dating and Relationships
- College Planning
- Pregnancy, birth control and family planning
- Traveling, exercising, managing medications and more
Redefine your idea of “normal”
Feel whatever you need to feel
Every emotion is legitimate. You are entitled to good days and bad, fits of rage and floods of tears, foggy patches of confusion so thick you don’t know which end is up. Holding it in and just going through the motions doesn’t help anyone.
Let yourself grieve for the way of life you’ve lost. You have to or you will never be able to embrace the life you have in your hands. Be patient with yourself as you discover the “new” you.
Live in the moment
Often, it’s those whose hearts struggle to beat who love more fully, laugh more wholly and live like they have nothing to lose. This will definitely take time, but it will come. You can’t go back and change the past. The future is uncertain, so all the endless “what if” questions will only keep you from living now, doing what you can with the time you’ve got.
Make a list of everything you want to do in this lifetime.
It can be anything from getting a mohawk to walking on the moon. Then start brainstorming how you can now realistically make those dreams come true.
Get down to the specifics like the costs involved, how you’ll travel (If you’re flying, will you need oxygen?). Tailor some of those ambitions when necessary, but don’t give up.
Don’t let pride get in the way
Take the elevator. Claim the handicapped parking spots. Buy funky scarves to cover your mouth in the winter. Use an unconventional pill case — an M&M’S® MINIS® tube, for example. Decorate your pump case or oxygen tank cover. Design your own medic alert bracelet with whatever beads you want.
Take everything that you feel makes you different and make it truly unique. It is possible to love the “new you.”
Do you have a topic that you’d like to see featured in the Young Adult section of PHA’s website? Email Outreach@PHAssociation.org to let us know!